How I Met Your Mother Lessons- Talking Yourself into Love

This is the cast from one of my all time favorite television sitcoms. It basically focuses on the triumphs and failures of 5 friends. The main premise being Ted the one in the middle is telling his future kids how he met his mother. They are on season 8 and we still do no know who mothered these kids who somehow magically have not aged the 7 1/2 years the show has been on the air.

 

Any who after getting a netflix account I have been watching every single episode of the show. Throughout the journey I have identified with differing characters throughout the show. Basically whoever was single and trying to figure out their life and career during that season. Now I'm on season 7 and Ted said something that really stuck with me.

 

YOU CAN'T TALK YOURSELF INTO LOVE

 

 

 Hindsight is 20/20 but when I think about it that is exactly what I tried to do in my last relationship. But love is something that just happens, its powerful, unpredictable, and often creates something beautiful. It is also scary. If the mere illusion of love can shatter your world and make you the title role in your very own lifetime film, then what will actual love do to you if it is removed. Then I think of one of my favorite scriptures.

 



1 Corinthians 13:4-7

New International Version (NIV)

⁴ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.


Yes I know it is cliche but it is beautiful and true. It makes me realize when I actually do fall in love and not the illusion of love then it won't do worse than shatter my world because it won't be removed... it will persevere. Also it will be LEGEN ( wait for it) DARY

Currently being awesome in SIN.

Float On...

          Just like the last petal falling from the rose at the end of beauty and the beast,

                                        

 

                                                    I too am drifting in the wind. 

 

I recently (this past weekend) read an article about "The Drifter Phenomenon". This occurs when events in life dictate where you land. You either consciously or subconsciously allow others to make decisions for you.

 

All this time I thought myself a pioneer and in control of my fate. But how could that be when I am living in a city I hate? !                                   

                                                       

 

Unbeknownst to me I had become a victim to the drifter effect! I graduated college and jumped at the first little job offered to me because I was still in a lease and I didn't want to break it. I got in a relationship with a man I was not even attracted to just because he said he wanted along term relationship. The list goes on. Needless to say that relationship ended ( crashed and burned to be more accurate). Now while the job resulted in a promotion and a respectable salary, I am still drifting waiting on life to control where I end up. I literally was a bystander in the last two years of my own life!

 

This realization has struck me like a lightening bolt. Life is short and I'm going to spend every waking minute living it the way I want. I am truly going to be the master of my fate and the captain of my soul.

Currently sinfully taking back control of my life.